Look, I understand that death is hard. I’ve suffered loss in my life as we all have but the thing about TVD that is making it unbearable to watch is that Elena Gilbert is someone we have seen go through a tremendous amount of loss. Each time she handled it as a strong person. When TVD returns in S6 it’s been 4 months since Damon died and she is so over the top that it is nauseating. I’m not saying she shouldn’t be sad over losing Damon but when you stop and take a look at her losses in the past and how she dealt with it, it is ridiculous how she is acting.
When the pilot aired, it had been 4 months since her parents died. Her PARENTS. Her mother and her father. Two of the most important people in a person’s life. The people who raised her since birth. We saw her a little depressed but trying to pick up the pieces, getting back to school, trying to live as normal of a life as possible. That was admirable because my god, losing not one but BOTH of your parents, I couldn’t imagine. Then we see Isobel die right in front of her, it barely affects her. Granted they hadn’t developed much of a relationship so I wouldn’t expect her to be that upset. Then she loses Jenna (and John) and we see her on the next episode, again a bit depressed, she goes into Aunt Jenna’s room and looks at its emptiness for a few seconds. Then she is going to a movie in the park telling Jeremy they need to get out of the house, that they need to live their life as normally as possible until it’s not so hard anymore. This was the NEXT day. No real mention of John, even though he was her Uncle and bio father who gave his own life to save hers.
Okay, so then S3 begins. In the last few months she had lost her aunt, her bio mom and her bio father and we see her a little sad (mostly over Stefan being gone) but again, she was trying her best to be strong, even promising not to lose it. Alaric talked about how much he missed Jenna but nothing really from Elena. Then we see her lose Jeremy. Now, she did lose it with him then was forced to turn her humanity off and she didn’t really have to be without him with her humanity for very long but during that time she was a mess. I don’t know what she would’ve been like after 4 months but we never had to find out. Same with Bonnie and Stefan. Of course, I would think she would have treated them a bit better having lost them and got them back but that’s another topic for another day.
Cut to Season 6, it’s been 4 months since Damon died, the same amount of time it had been since her parents died. I mean, the way that she is acting over Damon’s death is ridiculous. If I had seen her act this way with her parents, family and friends who she has known her ENTIRE life, I might think differently but it’s not. We saw her trying to pick up the pieces and move on with her life. Even convincing others to do the same. To see her hurting people. threatening people, crying non stop, throwing things around and especially, doing drugs after 4 months, it doesn’t make any sense. For the writers to act like THIS is the death to make her world stop spinning over a guy who she has known only a few years, who has done more harm than good in her life, is honestly laughable. I hate to say that but I seriously cannot watch the promo without laughing because it is so over the top and OOC for Elena’s character. It doesn’t make me feel sad for her, it makes her look pathetic and weak to turn to drugs and violence, not even to help cope with the depression of losing someone but to allow her to hallucinate said person. Elena used to be so strong, it was admirable. I could only hope I was able to handle certain situations with the strength and maturity that she possessed. She’s supposed to be the heroine of the show, the moral compass. She’s not even in the same universe as those things anymore. How sad.